THE ISLAMIC

FAMILY

STRUCTURE


Introduction 11
Authorís Preface 12
Translatorsí Forward 13

CHAPTER 1

THE PRINCIPLE OF MARRIAGE IN THE COSMOS 15
    The System of Joining and Coupling in Inanimate Objects
15
    The System of Plant Symbiosis
18
    The Pistil
18
    Reproduction
19
    The System of Animal Copulation and Reproduction
19
    Man and Marriage
20
    Let's Be Lenient in Making Preparations for Marriage
21
    Traditions on the Value and Importance of Marriage
23

CHAPTER 2

DIVINE VIRTUES IN THE FAMILY AND SOCIETY 25
    True Concept of Piety
25
    Piety and Its Praiseworthy Degrees
26
    Hajji Sabzevary and Moderation
27
    Luxury-Loving and Wastefulness
27
    Let's Invite Each Other to Piety
29
    Signs of the Pious
30
    A Pious Man and Wife
31
    Exemplary Shopkeeper
32

CHAPTER 3

THE LOFTY GOALS BEHIND MARRIAGE IN ISLAM 33
    An Honorable Household
33
    The Worst People
34
    The Blooming of Talents
35
    Striving for the Well-Being of the Household and the Home
36
    Establish the Loftiest Goal for Marriage
37
    The Family Structure in the West
38

CHAPTER 4

WOMAN'S POSITION IN HUMAN HISTORY AND ISLAM 41
    Mental Deviation of Corrupt Men Regarding Women
41
    Islam's Response to the Corrupt Men's Deviations Regarding Women
42
    Another Look at History Regarding Womenís Life and Status
47

CHAPTER 5

MAN AND WOMAN'S INDEPENDENCE IN ISLAM 51
    Human Freedom and Independence
51
    A Strange Story About Freedom
52
    An Important Matter
53
    A Dignified and Worthy Spouse
54
    One's Independence in Marriage
58

CHAPTER 6

WOMAN'S STATUS IN THE LOGIC OF REVELATION 59
    God's Pure Religion
59
    The Supplication of the Divine Prophets for God's Sovereignty and Mercy
61
    The Grand Status of Worshipping God
62
    Woman in the Logic of Revelation
63
    Intellect and Lust as Measures for Prosperity or Misery
64

CHAPTER 7

OBSTACLES TO MARRIAGE 67
    Strictness in Marriage
67
    Use Your Own Case to Judge for Others
68
    Haughtiness is a Satanic Attribute
70
    An Amazing Story about Leniency in Marriage
72
    Perils of Keeping up With the Joneses
74
    Expensive Nuptial Gift
74
    The Quran as a Nuptial Gift
75

CHAPTER 8

THE DIVINE AND ISLAMIC CONDITIONS FOR MARRIAGE 77
    Religion and Piety
77
    Being Matched
79
    Imam Sajjad's Views on Being Matched
81
    Those Whom You Should Not Let Your Daughters Marry
82
    Do not Marry Such Women
83

CHAPTER 9

HOW TO CHOOSE A SPOUSE 85
    The Evil-Doer is Deprived of God's Mercy
85
    The Path to Perfection
86
    How to Choose a Spouse in Islam
87
    An Amazing Story
88
    Islamic and humane Conditions in Choosing a Spouse
89

CHAPTER 10

ISLAM'S ORIGINAL PLANS ON MARRIAGE 93
    Marriage Negotiations
93
    The Necessity to Pay the Nuptial Gift
94
    The Wedding Trousseau
95
    A Divine, Spiritual Model for the Wedding Trousseau
96
    Praying at the Wedding Threshold
97
    The Time and Etiquette for Wedding
98
    Nuptial Night Customs
99

CHAPTER 11

HYGIENE IN THE FAMILY STRUCTURE 103
    The Worth of Cleanliness and Hygiene in Islam
103
    Oral and Dental Hygiene
106
    Orderliness and Hygiene in Food
107
    The Harms of Overeating
108
    An Educational Story
108

CHAPTER 12

ISLAMIC ETHICS IN THE FAMILY STRUCTURE 111
    The Value of Good Morality
111
    Love and its Expression
112
    Lowering Expectations
114
    Forgiving
115
    Feigning
116
    Anger
117
    Arrogance
118
    Behavior
119
    Talking
120
    Kanzulemal
120

CHAPTER 13

THE MODEST COVERING AND WOMAN'S CHASTENESS 123
    A Surprising Fact
126
    The View of Some Eminent Westerners in Regards to the situation of Western Society
127
    A Case From Imam Husaynís Life
128
    Veil and Dirty Looks as Viewed by the Quran
129
    Who Can See Women as Stated by the Quran
130

CHAPTER 14

SECURITY IN LIFE 131
    The Good and the Bad
131
    Ignorance and Illiteracy
132
    Knowledge and Wisdom
133
    The Heart is the Source of Truth
134
    Torture in the Expanse of the Hereafter
137
    Good Mothers and Fathers
138

CHAPTER 15

THE ASPECTS OF VIRTUE IN THE FAMILY 139
    The Sincerity of One's Intentions
139
    The Peak of Sincere Intention
139
    A Surprising Example of Sincerity
140
    Piety and Justice
142
    The Manifestations of Virtue in the Family
142
    A Virtuous Countenance
144
    An Instructive Story
145
    An Amazing Event
146

CHAPTER 16

THE MATERIAL ISSUES OF THE HOUSE AND THE FAMILY 149
    The Virtues and Vices of Wealth
149
    The Forbidden and the Unforbidden
150
    Don't Deprive Yourself of the Lawful Things
151
    Provide Your Family's Needs Through Lawful Means
151
    The Prophet of Islam and Lawfully Obtained Food
152
    How to Increase One's Daily Bread
153
    Unlawful Property
154
    One Who Repents is Loved by God
154

CHAPTER 17

THE PRINCIPLES OF SPIRITUALITY IN THE FAMILY 157
    Spiritual Blessings
157
    Intellect
157
    Quran
159
    Prophethood
160
    Leadership
161
    Religious Scholars
162
    Prayers
162

CHAPTER 18

REPONSIBILITIES OF THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD 165
    Protect Yourself and Your Family From the Fire of Hell
165
    A Scented Heaven
167
    Four Important Duties
168

CHAPTER 19

THE RIGHTS OF WIVES AND HUSBANDS IN ISLAM 171
    An Outlook on Family Rights
171
    The Rights of the Wife
172
    The Rights of the Husband
174

CHAPTER 20

PREGNANCY 181
    The Period of Pregnancy
181
    Duties During Pregnancy
183
    Delivery
184
    New-Born Clothing
184
    The First Food for the Baby
185
    Adhan and Iqamah (The General Call To Prayer and The Specific One)
185
    Childbirth Etiquette
186
    Mother's Milk
186
    Naming
187

CHAPTER 21

RAISING CHILDREN IN ISLAM 189
    The Position and Worth of Children
189
    Love for Children
191
    Kissing the Children
191

CHAPTER 22

THE WORTH OF RAISING A DAUGHTER IN ISLAM 193
    God's Will in Granting a Child
193
    Highly Important Traditions Regarding Raising a Daughter
194

CHAPTER 23

THE ROLE OF THE MOTHER IN CHILD REARING 199
    A Child as the Result of a Mother's Efforts
199
    The Fruit of the Garden of Purity
201
    My Mother Ruined My Life
201
    Sometimes Worshipping Diminishes
202
    A Bright Marriage
202
    Sheik Shooshtary's Mother
202
    The Effect of Physical and Spiritual Purity in Upbringing
203

CHAPTER 24

THE ROLE OF THE FATHER IN CHILD REARING 205
    Consider the Following Four Facts
205
    The Commander of the Faithful Cried
206
    People of Torture
206
    An Amazing Point Regarding Mother of Hajj Sheik Fazlollah Noory
207
    Youth Beware
208
    Deviated Fathers and the Children's Duties
209
    A Noble Father
209
    Bad Fathers and Good Children
210
    A distinguished Father
210
    Ali Akbar Will Not be Raised With Forbidden Food
211

CHAPTER 25

THE RIGHTS OF THE CHILDREN 213
    The Path to Prosperity
213
    Childrenís rights
214
    The Effects of Lawfully or Unlawfully Obtained Food
214
    Sheik Zahed
215
    A Good Memory
216
    A Note to Parents
217

CHAPTER 26

THE RIGHTS OF THE PARENTS 219
    A Heavy Burden
219
    An Amazing Point
220
    A Delicate Issue
220
    Traditions Regarding Parent's Rights
221
    Zacharias Serves His Parents
221
    Sheik Ansari and His Mother
223
    Mother's Damnation
223

CHAPTER 27

A COUPLE'S DUTIES TO THEIR RELATIVES 225
    Relatives
225

CHAPTER 28

OBSERVING THE RELATIONS OF THE WOMB 229
    The Quran and Visiting Relatives
229
    A Good Plan
230
    An Amazing Story
230
    Traditions About Visiting Relatives
231
    Traditions About Cutting Off Relations
232

CHAPTER 29

PROSPERITY OR RUIN OF A FAMILY 235
    Prosperity or Ruin
235
    Justice
236
    Being Kind
236
    Advice
237
    Politeness
237
    Protection of the Family from Accusations
238
    Honoring One's Oath
238
    Consultation
239
    Humbleness
240
    Kindness to Younger Ones and Respecting the Elders
240
    Hospitality
241
    Cause of Getting Ruined
241

CHAPTER 30

DIVORCE AND INHERITANCE 243
    Divorce is Despised
243
    Causes for Divorce
244
    Gossip
244
    Accusations
245
    A Lesson
245
    Divorce as Viewed by Quran
246
    Termination of Life
247